Maybe if I try to do both. Listen to what she has to say and you will move your life to new heights. It's a tool you use every day: the ordinary, common question. They diffused a very difficult situation. Act on What You Feel, Not What You Think 5. Just asking the right questions was the loving listening and helpful support she needed.
But most people have a really hard time answering this question, because most of us don't know what we want. They yield answers that fill the coffers of your mind with details, as well as emotion, blame, and perhaps even more problems. I've even asked him about it. For some, the battle is constant; others are not as affected. Let me ask that another way.
They think they do, but they come to discover that much of what drives them is unmet needs or the expectations of others. We each possess an internal compass that expresses our individual wisdom and points to the things that would most fulfill us. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher. Any ideas as to who? She consciously decided to pull back and once he realized there would be no fight, he was forced to respond in the same way. Wisdom Access Questions were essential in making this possible. Fortgang lives in Montclair, New Jersey.
We tend to be much more certain of what we should do, say, wear, or look like than of what will guide us to inner happiness. To experience your life unfolding with ease, the shift from information seeker to wisdom seeker becomes necessary. Become a Master at Focusing 9. By committing to monitoring your inner , however, you not only change your life, but begin to transform who you are. I want to be in advertising! Never underestimate the power of a few access questions to raise the level of intimacy in a relationship.
Getting good answers to access questions depends not only on what words you use but on where your underlying focus is. She had carved wisdom out of all her confusion simply by changing the questions she was asking. This is often translated into deep gratitude for the person who helped them get there. I want to be in advertising! Regardless of which category you fall into, this chapter will give you the first tool for accessing the wisdom that can change your life. Her techniques focus on asking ourselves what we really want instead of frenetically trying to have it all. Wisdom Access Questions were essential in making this possible.
To get the best results, your underlying focus should be on solutions and forward motion for your life. These questions access your innate wisdom to create positive, forward motion. My clients predictably begin to experience breakthroughs, both small and large, which I really can't take credit for. You told it your question and it found the answer for you. Personal and professional satisfaction, Fortgang believes, comes from tapping into this wisdom. Remember how frustrated that left you feeling? Ask for Directions Before You Are Lost 10. Why do you expect me or the company to help you? You told it your question and it found the answer for you.
Maybe you'd go on to provide a few details about what brought you to this moment of information seeking. I will lead and you will follow. Copyright 2001 by Laura Berman Fortgang. I know I will refer to her book over and over again. I've been giving it a lot of thought, but nothing's clear.
In the process, you'll see that you don't really need to understand a dilemma to know how to solve it. Most people are basically information seekers or wisdom seekers, although you may exhibit characteristics of both. Teaching advanced communication and living skills, Fortgang has helped thousands of clients find more rewarding careers, make more money, and exchange a stressful daily treadmill of endless goal-seeking for a life in which gains come easily. This liberating break is the result of using Wisdom Access Questions. Excerpted by permission of Jeremy P. When you need answers in life, you form questions that serve as your keywords. Synopsis A clear and utterly practical 90-day program for discovering a new direction for your life.
Fortgang suggests that instead of frenetically trying to have it all, we focus on asking ourselves what we really want by posing questions that lead us to positive action. This wise, honest and practical book can help you figure out what may be holding you back, and where to go from here. How did it know you needed exactly that? Take your time here, in order to absorb how this could transform your life. No obvious damage to the cover, with the dust jacket if applicable included for hard covers. This reminds me of how I learned to drive in Manhattan. This releases energy and moves you from feeling stuck to living in possibility — you can see opportunities just over the horizon.